Be Careful Who You Share Your Dreams With!
So you've got your BIG IDEA! You've built your dream - now who are you going to tell?
When I first talked about becoming self-employed, well meaning people told me it was too risky and I shouldn't give up a well paid job to do something I knew nothing about.
When we told our friends that we had a plan to sell our house and move to the 'Middle of Nowhere' and pursue our dream of creating a simpler life - most of them laughed in our faces.
They thought we were crazy. And that's OK. That's totally understandable because it's not something they would ever consider.
When you chose to pursue your dream . . . heck, just by having a dream . . . you are already in a tiny minority of people. You need to know this because those around you may not 'get it' and therefore may not be able to give you the support you need to move forward.
And this can be devastating. This can make the struggle even harder and you can feel alone, misunderstood and pressurised to give up.
But, do not despair! All is not lost - there is a whole new community out there waiting to welcome you with open arms. Ready to support your goals and understand your frustrations.
When you chose your dream - you chose the road less travelled. But always remember that others have trod this path before you.
I encourage you to reach out and find your community, tribe, family and share your very wildest dreams with them and they will rejoice with you, they will hold your hand and guide you when you need it and they will celebrate all your successes.
I've chosen to surround myself with positive people and those who support my dreams and I spend very little time with people who pull my dreams to pieces and tell me I'm crazy. I invite you to do the same.
I don’t know how you do but on the days when things just aren’t going to plan you come up with a blog post that really motivates me to keep on going.
Reaching out to find a support network is a bit scary when you’re starting out in business but I have found amazing support through Twitter. I tweet as myself as well as my business and find that I have people I consider to be ‘friends’ that I have never actually met. These friends I would freely ask advice of and trust because we have built up a rapport. I guess this is me surroundin myself with positive people who support my dream, without them there are some days when I would just give up.
Excellent blog post Heather, thanks for sharing and congratulations on realising your amazing dream! x
Great advice Heather! I too only have around me positive, uplifting people and I feel very blessed by that.
And people who step out and do the untypical inspire me, as you have today. Glad you are loving your simpler life.
Thanks for this post, Heather – a good reminder for those of us already self-employed, and inspiration fro those who’re just starting that journey 🙂
I found the angst, negativity & worry of my parents very hard to deal with when I started out, but when I finally learned to tell them (in a loving way, as I know they were just concerned for me) that the way they expressed their worry made it harder for me, and that I would prefer encouragement & statements of hope & support, and they started to learn that way of expressing themselves, it became a lot easier to chat to them about my business.
I’ll never forget a colleague who, when I was made redundant & decided not to look for a job but to investigate doing something for myself, told me I was nuts … and a year or so later, when he saw how much happier I was out of the corporate environment, and how he looked older than me from stress (he’s 10 years younger!) was changing his tune 🙂
Hold on to your dream… (as long as you do the work to research & make sure you can live with the dream…)
Great post. Risks can be well worth the taking.
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What an inspiring post! I also love Traceys way of dealing with well meaning family members who inadvertently like to dampen your enthusiasm, dream on all you wonderful people.
Thank you Denise, you wonderful person ~ I too, love Tracey’s way of dealing with well meaning family. Sometimes they don’t realise how they can squash a dream by trying to protect their loved ones xx
I have only just found this post and thank you, I am only a few steps along my path and haven’t quite found the positive people yet. Now at least I know you are out there!
Welcome ~ I’m so glad you’ve found us. There are lots of lovely friendly and supportive groups of positive people all helping each other build their dreams. They are out their waiting for you when you’re ready xx